Want to catch someone’s attention and let them know you’re interested in them but aren’t sure how? It’s time you learn how to flirt with your eyes.
When you’re at a busy bar, and you see someone from across the room, how do you expect to get their attention without yelling? You look at them. If there’s one thing we underestimate, it’s non-verbal communication, and this is your go-to guide to completely understand how to flirt with your eyes.
Flirting with your eyes is extremely powerful and easy to do. Plus, if the other person isn’t interested in you, you’ll get the message back in no time. It’s the first thing you can do before approaching someone.
Remember, the eyes can do a lot more than just flirt. They show anger, sadness, joy, and love. The eyes are the window into the soul. We assume that words mean more than anything else, but that’s wrong. When it comes to communication, actions always speak louder than words.
[Read: 10 subtle flirting eye contact moves that really work]
How to flirt with your eyes and get the message across
So, if you want to know how to flirt with your eyes, here are some tips. But, at the end of the day, it will take some practice and feedback. That’s the only way you can truly learn! Let’s get going, and start flirting with your eyes.
#1 The casual stare. In the beginning, you want to keep things low-key and casual. You don’t want to make the other person uncomfortable by staring at them intensely. So, keep your glances casual, and look at them in a relaxed manner. You want them to see that you’ve looked at them, but you’re not a creeper. [Read: How to make eye contact while making sure you don’t look creepy at the same time]
#2 The 4.5-second scan. When looking at the average person, we spend three seconds scanning their face. But if someone has caught our attention, the facial scan lasts for four and a half seconds. With eye contact, 10 seconds means you either want to be intimate with them or you want to fight. [Read: Subconscious signs of attraction that inevitably show up between two people]
#3 Make longer eye contact. So, you’ve casually looked at them, and they now notice you. Now, wait for the right moment to make eye contact with them. If they’re looking back at you, make your eyes meet them and hold the glance for a couple of seconds.
Don’t stare for too long, or else it can be a little too much. Just long enough to let them know you’re interested in them. [Read: What prolonged eye contact means when you flirt – and how to do it right]
#4 Give the room another glance. You have made eye contact, and they seem to be interested. They’re not looking away with an uninterested face or ignoring your glances. To make sure they’re interested, look away from them, scan the room and look back at them. Use your body language to get your message across.
#5 Don’t forget the rest of your face. Flirting isn’t only with the eyes. Don’t forget to use the rest of your face. Show off your smile, and make your attraction to them known. Flirting involves the whole body, so don’t be afraid to use the rest of your body language.
#6 You can wink if you want! If you’re someone with a solid wink, then bring it out to shine! If you’re someone who can wink, why not give it a try? It’s cheeky and can be funny *in a good way*. But if you’re not comfortable winking, practice at home first. If it doesn’t feel natural, then don’t do it. [Read: How to wink like a total tease and catch anyone’s eye]
#7 The flirting triangle. There have been plenty of studies that show we look at different parts of people’s faces depending on how attracted we are to them. When we’re talking to a stranger, we move our eyes from eye to eye and to the bridge of the nose. The more comfortable we are around them, the triangle widens. With lovers, our triangle widens evermore, including the mouth.
#8 The power of the blink. Did you know blinking can help show someone you’re interested in them? ‘Batting your eyelashes’ didn’t come from nowhere. When someone looks at a person they’re interested in; they blink more. If they like you back, they’ll match your blinking.
#9 Build the tension. If you want to build some tension, try not to look at them. Yeah, I know it’s hard, but it’ll build some sexual tension between you. For a couple of minutes, stop staring and see what happens. This may get the person to look at you even more. [Read: How to build sexual tension to the point where it’s out of control]
#10 Focus on their reply. After all this eye flirting, you want to see if it’s working. If they’re not reciprocating, it means they’re not interested. But if they’re doing the same things as you, then they might be interested. [Read: Here’s how to know if someone likes you back]
#11 Approach the person. If you’ve done your eye flirting and they seem interested in you, then approach them. It’s the only way you can find out if they’re actually interested in you or not. So, after you’ve done enough flirting with your eyes, it’s time to make a move.
Read: How to start a conversation with a crush and woo them]
If you wanted to know how to flirt with your eyes, well, now you have everything you need. All you need to do now is practice!